I have tried to make this web site as helpful and informative as I could. However,
the advice presented here also has to be as generic as possible, and therefore may
not address specific or individual situations. My posting these thoughts on
this web site for you to read and consider can not and
should not be considered the formation of a therapeutic relationship between
It is important that you realize that this site is not intended to function as or take the place of individual
or family therapy. In therapy, there is no one-size-fits-all solution. Therefore, I
can take no responsibility for any reader's decision to act on what might be misconstrued as
Information published on this web site is not intended to replace the examination
or recommendations of your counselor, therapist, or medical professional. Only you and
your help provider can make personal or medical decisions and treatment plans
which are appropriate for you. Be very careful when deciding what to do, because
you alone are responsible for whatever path or advice you choose to follow, and
only you will have to live with the consequences of your decisions. If you have any doubts or questions, or if you are suffering any emotional pain or if you or someone you know is in a dangerous situation, find an experienced local therapist who can get to know you and help you
decide on an appropriate course of action. Finding help is doubly important when you or people around you are in danger.
If you are considering suicide or hurting anyone else, or fear you may be suicidal, get help immediately. Contact the nearest hotline or suicide prevention program.
Rather than hurting yourself,
those who care about you, or anyone else, do whatever it takes
to ensure safety.
Again, I can take no responsibility for anyone's decision based on material on this website. I can offer information and ideas, but real help flows from a direct relationship with a therapist or other helping person who is trained, and who is capable of taking professional responsibility.
For what it's worth, I firmly believe that the more responsibility you take for your life, the more power and opportunity you have to create change. The
consequence of making others responsible [exceptions for those who really have no power--the abused
violated or oppressed] is that they then have the power to choose whether change happens. Take responsibility [when it makes sense] and thereby, take control.
Finally, I must include a message for those who may submit questions or
comments. Although I am grateful for your input and respect your privacy, you
should be aware that we do not have a therapeutic relationship. What you send to
me is not privileged communication and should not be construed as forming a
privileged relationship between us.